ZOLOFT: SINKING, BUT SLOWLY
Getting myself off Zoloft was a good decision. It takes four to six
weeks for Zoloft to kick in completely, & the same to clean it out of
system. I'm able now to sort out the withdrawal symptoms from Welbutran XL
side effects. It's been like waking up from semi-hypnotic state.
Zoloft was a good & necessary thing when I went on it in spring 1999.
I was worked up into states of anxiety, anger, even hostile resistance to
situations. I was working for a decent guy but a very difficult boss
in a graphic arts studio, beginning to realize that he couldn't back up his
pushy confidence with imaginative ideas, & the projects he was doing
were making me crazy. I was underpaid clients billed $20 an hour for
copy/editing, $10 for me). & turning into a bad worker. I was also
starting to fall for Lorelie, the woman he'd hired to handle his office detail
work & client contacts - we'd taken to smoking pot together on occasion
& I knew that soon I'd be unable to hide my feelings - either way it
went was going to complicate matters. (about a year later, long after I'd
quit, I did call her for a date, she stood me up, which infuriated me into
say nasty things. Later understood it was a compliment - she was terrible
judge of male character.) In June I lost my WFMU radio show - I refused the
time slot offered. & that was the end of my weekly broadcasts.
But I was burning out anyway - had more than reached a goal I'd set a couple
of years earlier of being on-the-air during WFMU's transition from East Orange
to its new home, which turned out to be Jersey City.
Zoloft chilled me out. I didn't like the general feeling of drug, its side
effects, but it clearly helped. That summer I walked away from the
graphics place, went back to Pearl Arts & Crafts part time & threw
myself into fixing the book department - the third time I'd taken it over
since 1992. Zoloft gave me a kind of crazy, laid back chutzpah, in which
I went about doing whatever I wanted with the department without asking permission
of anyone above me; adding my own choices to book orders; assembling large
metal aisle end cap displays back in receiving & pushing them out on
the sales floor - one person doing two person work, but without interference;
taking huge markdowns on the pallets of closeout art books the store owner
bought from North Light & hoping he never checked the price tages (he
didn't); expanding clip art on PC disk; coloring books; woodworking; new
age stuff. I was giving myself the same freedom I'd had at WFMU, & nobody
was stopping me. I was working 25 to 30 hours per week -doing more
than previous book people (myself included) had done in 40; & still had
time to coast around the store visiting the many attractive, artsy young
women for which the store was well known - the goth girls, fashion designer
wannabees, make-yer-own jewelry neo-hippies. & four or five times a weeks
drive down to Sewaren Boat ramp in Woodbridge - on Arthur Kill, or Cliffwood
Beach on the Bayshore. It was a good basic set up, despite having to
cold turkey weekly radio routine. The book dept was becoming very cool -
I'd checked out the local Borders & Barnes & Nobles, realized I could
top their art how to sections easily, & recognized that customers preferred
browsing these kinds of books to buying them off Amazon.com. Plus, the dept
was surrounded by a big selection of stickers, greeting cards & small
impulse items (more of the latter stolen than bought, I suspected).
I enjoyed the work, wanted to doing it, but had to have a raise - I was making
under $7 an hour. For another 75 cents or a buck I could cover basic expenses
& play around with other p/t work or self-employment - I kind of wanted
to work in a coffeehouse. When I finally got the nee\rve to ask for this
raise, after Christmas, the steely blue-eyed woman senior manager of
all the Pearl store turned me down flat, saying, "Robert, didn't we give
you a twenty-five cent raise when you came back here last August?"
This woman had just moved into a larger home & was driving a brand new
SUV. That was a turning point for me - I turned around & headed back
downhill. Into my first stay on Ward 2 South.
I was on Zoloft for nearly four more years, increasingly lethargic, poorer,
the core of hope I'd somehow always sustained slowly dying. I did gain needed
weight, occasionally stirred myself to action, writing, doing web stuff,
more challenging reading & music - very interiorized & solitary.
Even 9/11 didn't affect my path. I bullshitted my therapist week after
week. Lost my car & so broke my connection to the water. That was very
bad. Going nowhere, then sinking, but slowly.
© Bob Rixon 2004
Bob Rixon: Devoted to DJ Rix